Monday, October 29, 2012

Families Unplugged: Activities Fit For a Power Outage

Photo: protectamerica.com
On the east coast today we are experiencing incredible wind, rain and power outages. Today's post was a very quick and informal list made by my daughter, my fiance and myself a little while ago when our power was out. I hope I get it posted before it goes out again-and I'm expecting we will lose it again soon as the winds are picking up here in Quakertown, PA.

I've started you all off with our top 12 favorite (unplugged) activities to do during a power outage. Please feel free to add more in the comments section below.

To my East Coast family, friends, neighbors and readers, feeling Hurricane Sandy's effects right now, please stay safe, warm & dry!


Top 12 Unplugged Family Activities to do During a Power Outage:

12. play cards
11. have a beer (this was Jay's contribution)
10. read by candle light
9.   tell stories
8.   sing songs
7.   yoga (if you've got glow sticks to wear, even better!)
6.   meditate
5.   build a fire (in the fireplace of course)
4.   play board games
3.   coloring pages
2.   write letters (the old-fashioned way-with a pencil and paper)
1.   camp out in living room (snuggled under warm blankets)


What are your family's favorites?









Thursday, October 25, 2012

In Case You Missed it: Social/Emotional Learning


Crying doesn't indicate the you are weak. Since birth, it has always been a sign you are alive ~Unknown

Its been an emotional week for my immediate and extended family with the sudden passing of my youngest niece (age 17) from complications of epilepsy. I have been working with my daughter (age 13) to find ways to celebrate her life, rather than dwelling on the loss we all feel. Paige was an organ donor and Lauren has noted that it is a small comfort to know that my niece is helping other families live and celebrate life, as she transitions to the next world. Its never easy when you lose a family member, but even more difficult when that family member is a child or young adult. 

As my daughter so eloquently put it: "Its as if time stood still, and everyone was moving so slowly."  She is right. Suddenly, politics,current events and personal differences don't matter at all, as we focus on just supporting each other.

There are so many emotions and interpersonal dynamics that arise when a family goes through a major life event such as this. Being who I am, I've been trying to step back a bit and look at it all to see what can be learned from it and how that insight can be applied. Maybe that is my way of working through my own grief, but it seems as if it is my natural reaction after the initial feelings of sadness, tears and emotional release, so I don't fight it.

In the spirit of deeper understanding of how to give positive support and help each other through difficult transitions, this week's links are geared towards social and emotional learning. Please feel free to share them with others.

If you would like to read Paige's story, (as written by a close friend) and help her parents, sisters, cousins, classmates, friends and family celebrate her life, please click here

This weekend, my wish for you is that you find and reinforce your own ways of celebrating life with your children, families and friends. In the big picture, its really the only thing that matters.

~Barbara


Why Champion Social and Emotional Learning ? (Edutopia) 

The Impact of Social Emotional Learning (CASEL) Download

Communication: Encouraging Spontaneous Language

Behavior and Social Skills

Grief in the Family: Providing Support at School

Emotional Learning (Psychology Today) 

Helping Your Child With Transitions


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Friday, October 19, 2012

In Case You Missed It: Bullying Prevention Resources

Photo:
stopbullying.gov
This week, while riding home on the late bus after a school activity, my daughter was hit in the face (near her eye) with a full bottle of Gatorade that was thrown at her by another student on the bus. The student who threw the bottle, immediately ran off the bus at her stop, with a few other kids. The bus driver was kind enough to re-route and bring her home first so we could look at her eye.

While my daughter's physical injury could be considered minor, she was very angry, upset, and a little intimidated. (This student is older, taller and more muscular than she is, due to natural body frame and athletic training.) I called the transportation department, as well as the school and I was impressed and grateful that both departments acted professionally and immediately to address the incident.

Last night, my daughter told me that she felt relieved after talking with the counselor and vice principal, but all week, she felt anxious and scared, because she thought this student was going to retaliate for her "telling" on [the student] and "getting [the other student] written up." (I explained to my daughter that the other student got written up because of the bottle throwing. Throwing a bottle was a choice; a write- up was the consequence. Getting hit in the eye was not a choice, but a consequence of another's reckless choice.)

For a moment, I was back in the 70's, also a 7th grader, with that feeling in my stomach, too shy and scared to tell my teachers about the mean and intimidating behavior I experienced from peers on the playground, in the hallway, and any other place that there was no adult supervision. I remembered how isolated I felt, feeling like I didn't fit in with any kids my own age.  Thankfully, and with some good family guidance, my daughter is way more confident, socially assertive than I was at that age, and even still, she carried that sick feeling in her stomach until the situation was addressed.

I knew back then, as my daughter knows now, that I had a family who cared and others around me who could help me learn how to overcome my social distresses. My daughter knows that she has resources and people in her life who can help her gain confidence, stay grounded and move forward with her hopes and dreams as well. I know some students (and adults) feel unsupported and lost and ultimately turn to solutions that just create more violence, pain and suffering. I would like to encourage everyone to keep those students and their families in mind and rather than judging them or the situation, let us try and learn something from our observations so we can prevent another child from turning to drugs, guns or suicide. This could happen to any of us, no matter who we are or where we come from.

I want to publicly thank those parents, families, teachers, students, bus drivers, and others who are supporting & educating both the victims and the aggressors respectively to move everyone towards more empowered, cooperative & peaceful interactions.

October is Bullying awareness month and I would like to include some resources for students, parents and educators. Please share the ones that resonate with you, with those you love & work with.

If you have another resource, please post it in the comments below.

Have a great weekend.

~Barbara


History of Bullying Prevention (With other links)

Teach Anti-Bullying Inc

Characteristics of Bullying

Helping Bystanders Speak Out

Bullying Prevalent in Children's Programming

Bullying and Siblings

Close the Gateway to Bullying

Building Social/Emotional Skills in Elementary Students

Five Ways to Stop Bullying and Move into Action

Resources and guides From The Pacer Center

Hard Battles (Suicide Prevention)

Kindness: A Gift you Pay Forward

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Wednesday, October 17, 2012

The Hat Game: A Lesson in Labels



Earlier today, I was talking with a yoga teacher in Vancouver, Canada about working with children with autism. In the course of the conversation, she said something that struck a chord with me: 

"I know those labels can be useful for getting services and designing supports, but as soon as the children enter the studio, I put the labels away and just observe them as we participate in class together. They are extraordinary individuals and we can learn so much from them."

We try so hard to eliminate labels, but I think the bigger problem is that the labels are misinterpreted. I would like to see all of us keep an open mind (and heart) when we are working with children that come to us with or without a label. Just try to observe, and see what you can learn from them.

I would also like to see this lesson extend to all people, and be taught in classrooms as soon as the children are old enough. We all have to live together on this planet, and we might as well understand how to approach & interact with each other. 

I am reminded today of an activity that I used many years ago to teach my adult evening class of Medical Assistants the concept of labels.

Its called "The Hat Game" and was shown to me by Cheryl, my co-teacher at the time. The exercise works for more mature, neuro-typical children ages 12 and up as well as adults.  (Its not recommended for children under 12.) Its perfect to incorporate into yoga classes, home school learning or traditional classrooms. 

You need some long strips of paper (about 3" x 20") that can be made into "Hats" (or headbands) and a magic marker. You should have one paper hat for each student or participant.

Measure the paper around a student's head to figure out how large to make the hats. Then, with the magic marker, clearly write a label on each hat and under the label write a short direction as to how to respond to that person. Some labels that I have used: (you can modify to fit your group.)

Clown:  (Laugh at me)
Important person: (Defer to me)
Stupid Person: (Ignore Me)
Funny Person: (Laugh at Me)
Nerd: (Insult Me)
Helpless person: (Pity Me)
Boss: (Obey me)
Annoying Person: (Avoid me)

Fasten the hats with tape or staples.

To do the activity: Explain to the group that you have some hats with labels on them and each person will get one to wear.

They are NOT allowed to look at their own hat/label.

They are NOT allowed to tell anyone what their hat/label says.

You will be given an activity to do (or to plan) and as you do the activity, everyone must treat each other as their labels say to.

In my group, I gave 12 adults,  15 minutes to plan details to an outing and decide where they were going, who was driving, what they were doing, how much money to bring, etc.  These were the only instructions I gave, and I told them once they had their hats, I was not allowed to intervene and I also had to treat everyone as their hat label. I placed a hat on each head and started the timer. I video taped the exercise and showed the students later.

Here's what happened: At first things look normal and then, as everyone treated each other as their hat label, within about 5 minutes, the participants actually became their label.  I mean their personalities and behaviors changed, and in most of the cases drastically, to fit their hat label.

I wish I still had the video tape, because what I saw was astounding.

The most outspoken student in the class wound up (unintentionally) getting the "Stupid person ignore me" label-and was alarmed and confused at first and then, (this was an honors student- a mom with 3 grown kids) by the middle of the exercise sat back in her chair, stuck her fingers in her ears and said "Fine. I'm gonna ignore you all too." and she did.

The student who got the "Funny Person-Laugh at me" label was somewhat shy and serious, and by the end of the exercise she took on a somewhat slapstick demeanor and was pausing after everything she said to wait for the laughter.

The most memorable was the person I gave the "Important person-defer to me" label to. This young man had self-esteem, financial and family challenges, (and I did give this label to him on purpose) and as I watched the interaction, I saw his posture improve, and his voice get clearer and he actually would make eye contact with the rest of the group (something he rarely did) as he led the discussion. When the exercise was over and we reviewed the tape, he couldn't believe it himself.

I actually had to stop the exercise before the time was up, because  at one pint it did start to get emotional. After I stopped it, I had each student tell us what they noticed, how they felt about the treatment they received and then try to guess their own label. The students gave some powerful insights. I made sure there were no hard feelings when we ended, and I reminded them that in their line of work, dealing with people who are sick, scared frustrated and some dying, to never forget that many times, its how we treat others that they become their labels-rather than the other way around.

At the end of the year, I was told by my class, that of everything I taught them, this exercise had the most impact.

What are some exercises and activities that you use to teach your students the true impact of treating people like a label they wear?

I welcome your comments!


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Monday, October 15, 2012

Children's Brains & Stress: Making Meditation Kid-Friendly

Photo: Barbara Gini-©2010
Serenity Health & Fitness Center

This is your brain on stress: environmental data collected by the sensory systems and interpreted by the brain reads that you are in danger or being threatened in some way. The brain quickly sends the alarm to the body as adrenalin floods into every cell causing your heart and respiratory rate to increase. Every muscle in your body is ready to spring into action, and all before you can even cognitively understand what has just taken place, or even that you are being threatened.

This is your body's "Fight or Flight" mechanism and its commonly known as the Stress Response. Its a natural reaction to stress that the body sets in motion all on its own.

The interesting thing about it, is that the brain cannot tell the difference between a real stress event (such as being stalked on a dark street at night by a group of thugs) or an artificial one, (such as watching a movie scene where someone is being stalked by a bunch of thugs.) In each case, it will react in the same manner.

While we know that the stress response is the body's safety mechanism, we also know that sustained stress, whether real or perceived, can cause a number of health problems. In fact, it is estimated that stress is the underlying reason for more than 70% of all doctor's visits.

In children, especially children with special needs, stress can be equally as devastating. In one study, 20%-40% of the children ages 8-12 reported feeling stressed or worried, yet only 8%-17% of the parents & educators in their worlds realized that they were stressed. Clearly, our children need to have support and guidance in recognizing stress and coping with it so that it does not get out of control. Un-managed stress in children causes a variety of physical, mental and emotional health problems, aggressive behaviors, isolation and illness. This does not just affect the person experiencing stress, but has a ripple effect and will impact every single person a child comes in contact with.

In addition, a stressed brain cannot learn.

Once the brain goes into Fight or Flight mode, all it can do is fight, or flee. This is why its especially important for educators and therapists to know the outward signs of stress in kids and develop plans to minimize and cope with the stress response, but most importantly to teach children how to self-regulate and manage their own stress on a regular basis, no matter where they are. They need to know when its important to react quickly, and when they need to stay calmer and respond rather than react.

Stress management, like brushing teeth, is a vital part of a child's health & learning. It is a life skill that needs to be taught in a patient and clear manner, just as we teach our children the days of the week, how to set the table, put their belongings away, and other everyday tasks. It is a skill that not only serves them in health, but in regulating behavior, relationships & academic learning, in the classroom, at home and in all of life.

One of the topics discussed in our "Calm & Connected" workshop is how to simplify stress management & meditation techniques so that kids can understand and use them independently. When presented in a fun, matter-of-fact, simplified manner, (while children are calm & having fun) using everyday language, kids will respond and actually want to do it. This gives them tools to use to, transition to a new situation, calm quickly after a stressful event occurs or to stay focused on what's important as one is occurring.

Our book, "Calm & Connected: Yoga-Based Tools for Self-Regulation" takes it a step further and draws a connection between sensory integration, stress and the yoga techniques that address both.

The key to helping kids manage stress is to make it "Kid-Friendly". Simple stories, games, props and most of all practice will help a child learn when to "Fight or Flee" and when to "Stay Calm & Keep Connected".


How do you cope with/manage stress?

What are some ways that you help your children or students cope with stress? 


Please tell us in the comments below.


Related Articles:

The Pizza Game (Sensory Based Stress Management for Kids)

Peace Garden Imagery

Pool Noodle Reflexology

Helping Children Cope with Anxiety

Three Minute Neck Massage

Calming Anxious Lives

Meditation: Children and Teens as Mindful Warriors (Roots of Action Blog-Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell)




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Friday, October 12, 2012

In Case You Missed It: Fall Themes & Halloween Links

Photo: Phil Owen
gamefront.com
There is a coolness in the air-and the smell of baked apples floating through my home and office today.

I've picked the last of the peppers, squash and eggplant from the garden in anticipation of the frost we are supposed to get this evening.

These events mean that my favorite time of year is beginning. I love the fall: festivals, apple picking Halloween and other events & activities for families.

This week's Friday Blog is filled with recipe links, activities, games and other informative articles geared towards this time of year. Please enjoy and feel free to pass them on!

(If you know of any others, please post in the comments section below!)

Have a fantastic weekend!

~Barbara



Halloween facts: Costumes, History, Legends and More

Making Halloween Fun for Special Needs Children

Fall Harvest Foods

Sensory Strategies: Avoiding Halloween Overload

NJ's 5 Best Family Halloween Activities

7 Best Pumpkin Picking Destinations in NY, NJ & CT

Halloween Activities for Kids

Cat Pose: Holding on & Letting Go

Halloween: A Spooky Time for the Sensory Challenged

Spooky Snacks (Seasonal Snack Recipes)

Halloween Inspired Math Activities

The Top 20 Special Ed Blogs

What Inclusion Looks Like (InfoGraphic)








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Friday, October 5, 2012

In Case You Missed It: Assorted Topic Links - October 1-5

Photo: Barbara Gini ©2012
Happy Friday everyone!

What an incredible week I've had, beginning with an awesome workshop with 12 OT's, PT's and COTA's; the launch of our distance Learning Program (details being added to our website today!); One to One work with 3 wonderful adaptive yoga teachers-in-(distance)-training; helping a client build a new website and several incredible walks in the woods near my home. I snapped this photo above with my cell phone while I was walking near a  bunch of fallen trees. (So much to see on a walk! If you are paying attention.)

The week is winding down with visit from family from North Carolina & the 2 day birthday festivities for my love, and my best friend who turns 50 years young today. Every single day I still discover something new about him. He has supported me and the work I am doing in every way possible for the last four years and today I celebrate his life, his patience, honesty and integrity by wishing him & everyone reading this all of the love, support, humor, happiness and new experiences that he has given me.

Wishing Happy Birthdays to everyone celebrating this season!

~Barbara


Here are your links for this week:


National Sensory Awareness Month: "Faces of SPD" project

Learning About Friendships at every Grade Level

Montessori Inspired Solar System Unit-World Space Week 

Vision & Learning Go Hand in Hand

Families Bypass Junk Food & Focus on Eating Healthy

Common Core in Children's Yoga

Physical Activity and the Brain: Exercise After Stroke Helps Improve Memory

Bullying is Portrayed in 92% of Children's Shows

Compassionate Meditation Can Boost Empathy

School Garden Grants Program




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